Facebook Frustration

I am sick of Facebook. I can’t go on without getting frustrated and annoyed.

My annoyance is so bad at times that I won’t go on Facebook for weeks at a time. Then I feel like a schmuck because I find out my elderly aunt has been sick and I didn’t see my cousin’s post.

When it seems like someone else is MAKING me feel a certain way, I know I have to take a look at myself. I have a choice to be a victim or be responsible for my interpretation of the situation.

These are my interpretations that are making me crazy!

I feel like everyone on Facebook has life figured out. They have the perfect job, the perfect family and are taking the perfect vacations. Everything in their life is perfect!

I know for a fact that some of the people coming across as perfect are far from it. They are choosing to put on a mask of perfection for whatever reason. Pride, vanity, to avoid shame and embarrassment if they admitted the truth?

I also get sick of those who are constantly complaining about their boss, their job, their friend, their co-worker, whoever has done them wrong. This sort of post seems to get responses from those who want to get the scoop and pass on the gossip and those who want to console the one who’s been “wronged.”

Of course, this is all done keeping the perpetrator’s identity anonymous, but you know who you are. And so does everyone else. And if you can’t figure it out just message them and they’ll tell you. DRAMA!

Ok, now it’s time for me to be a grown up.

Have you heard the one where if we can’t be with something in another person then that’s a part of us we can’t be with? In other words, if I look on my side of the street, I will see where I am doing those very things that really irk the heck out of me.

Am I guilty of putting on the mask of perfection? It hurts to admit it but yes. Yup, nothing to see here, I’ve got it all handled. A big LOL here!

I post about my wonderful kids and husband and they are wonderful, and imperfect. My husband and I have been together for 30 years now and I would be lying if I said we had it all figured out. We are still working on how to communicate on a deeper level other than what happened at work, on the golf course or at the grocery store.

I love both my kids and there are times I say “really?” when my daughter shows up with yet another hair color or mumble “dumb ass” under my breath when my son recounts his antics with his buddies.

And what about the drama? Even though I have been trying hard not to complain to others, there are times that complaints are just bouncing around in my head.

Debbie Ford said, “what we resist, persists.” When I try not to verbally complain and push away any mental complaints it just makes them stronger.

Then when I go on Facebook and see someone complaining, the floodgates burst. I begin complaining about the complainers!

What do I do with all of this? On Facebook, I can and have unfriended people who are constantly complaining and seeming to want to pick fights.

But what do I do about me? I can’t unfriend myself.

First, I choose where I’m going to complain. I have a few select friends whom I can go to and say, “I just need to complain about this.” They let me be victim until I get it out. Then if they hear me complaining after that, they remind me to be responsible.

Second, there’s really nothing else to do but accept and be me. Accept my mistakes, my feelings, my foibles and my imperfection. Sounds easy right?

It would be easy if there was something I could do like run around the house 5 times and poof! Suddenly I am no longer bothered by complainers or people pretending to be perfect. No such luck.

But, as soon as I practice authenticity, I become more accepting and compassionate not only of myself but with everyone else around me. Think I’ll try that next time I’m on Facebook.

4 Responses to Facebook Frustration

  • Hugs to you, Linda!
    For me, FB connects me with those who have positively impacted my life or with those I have positively impacted. I can connect with all my graduates who are living well, getting married, vacationing in exotic places where most likely, I may never travel to.

    I have had to disconnect with some when I feel bad inside about someone’s post. I also will click on the top right of posts, which tell FB I don’t various types of posts. I take action and control my FB world.

    I hope my posts are not offensive to you. I try to be positive. I do review my page holitically, so that I review the tone and intent.

    Nice blog, BTW! Enjoyed your posts.

    Love,
    Cynthia

    • Thanks Cynthia! Facebook can be such a great way to connect with people and has definitely been instrumental in bringing people together. With all the people that we can reach through Facebook, we need to be aware of who we are being in the world. Thank you, Cynthia, for choosing to focus on the positive! It really does make a difference and I believe there are more positive, loving people like yourself out there than not. Thanks again for the comments!

  • I have been frustrated with the negativity lately, especially when people post videos of others and make fun of those people. It breaks my heart. Yet I know FB is an open door for all sorts of opinions and views. I tend to stay away from scrolling through my newsfeed. I’ll post something to get a laugh (and make people laugh, of course!) or because it’s work related. But I’m creating more and more space in between the place where we all end up (FB) and the real space of my friends and family. 🙂 Thanks for the post!

    • Thanks for the comment Joleene! It seems that it has become “fashionable” for a certain population to post negative comments. I think that those of us who find these posts unacceptable need to say so. However, we need to do so in a firm but compassionate way. Otherwise we run the risk of ending up in the mud of negativity as well. Thanks for being the change you wish to see in the world Joleene!

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