Finding Our Value(s)


My New Year’s resolution for 2013 was to make this my best year ever by reaching and impacting as many people’s lives as possible.  In order to do that, I am committed to everyone having the best year ever.   My aim is to spread the word about what coaching is and have as many people as possible experience the power of it.
I then realized that I needed a different focus for my business.  Actually I needed to start treating it like a business.  Since business is not my primary language, I decided I would need some help from an expert. In walked Vicki James from Stand Out Results.
One of the first things Vicki had me do was distinguish my core values for my business.  A few years ago, I put together a workshop based around identifying the participants values and then had them write a personal mission statement for the organization for which they were volunteering.
I had identified my values then but I decided to start from scratch particularly to see if my values were different for my business than personally. 
I began by going online and finding a list of 300 values.  I read through the list and wrote down any that resonated with me.  This left me with a list of 38 values.
I then picked out the ones that had the most energy for me.  The first was easy.  Trust had the most pull for me.  I went on to list 7 more.  I then realized that the other 30 that I had listed could be put into one of the first eight categories.
I got to take a close look at what I value, not my mom or dad, my husband or kids, my coach, my friends or the world.  
I found myself having fun with this exercise and really owning my values.  It made me take a look at not only what I value but also who I want be in life.
I thought that Vicki would be pleased with the work I had done and she was.  However, she asked me to narrow my list even further,  down to 5 core values for my business. With Vicki’s assistance, I was able to do that.  
Consider doing this exercise for yourself.  What do you value most personally or for your business?  Are they the same? 
Google “list of values” and write down what speaks to you.  Then narrow that list till you get the 5-6 values that say what’s really important to you.  
Are you living your life according to your core values?  If not, how’s it going?  What would life be like for you if you did?  What would be a simple action you could take today to honor what you value in life?
In upcoming blogs, I will take you through what I discovered to be my 5 core values for my business and what each means to me.  
Please share what comes up for you here or go to my Linda Heeler Coaching Facebook page.  I look forward to hearing from you! 

A Legacy of Love

The world lost a bright light two weeks ago.  A twenty-four year old young man who changed the world in the short time he was here.
Blair was a young man who grew up with my daughter Amanda.  We come from a small town of about 7000 people and their class graduated about 70 kids.  This made for a close knit community not only for the kids but for the parents as well.
Blair was a soccer and baseball player, played the trumpet, sang in an acappella group in college and was a virtuoso on the piano.  But I remember him best as a member, along with my daughter, on our school’s championship swim team.
I fondly remember the swim meets, team dinners and especially the team parties we held in our basement.  The kids would come over right after practice and play pool & ping pong, eat pizza, watch movies and laugh.  Our basement would smell of chlorine and be filled with residual joy for days after.
During regular season, the boys on the team had a tradition of growing their hair out.  Then when sectionals came, there would be a “shave” party.  That’s where everyone would gather and the boys would shave their heads.  All this in the hopes to “shave” seconds off their best time.
Blair was known for his long, flowing main of red hair and his piercing blue eyes.  To me, it just seemed unnatural for him to be walking around bald.  
Blair was beginning his life having graduated from college and now working at an  architectural firm in Washington DC.  He was making a difference in the world.
His father told stories of Blair’s kindness and generosity and his sense of humor.  Stories that we would never have known had this tragedy not occurred.
When my son, Spencer, heard of Blair’s death, he said he was so sorry as he always knew him to be a good person.  Not one person could remember him saying a bad thing about someone else.
After Blair’s funeral and many tears, my daughter and I sat alone quietly trying to make sense of this loss to the world.  I told her quite simply that there is no answer to the question “why.” 
She was grateful for all of the goodness and kindness that Blair had brought to so many lives.  She remarked that it was such a loss for those whose lives he would have impacted in the future.  We thought that life would have been so much better for so many if Blair were still here and we mourned that loss as well.
We decided that if each of us were just a little more kind, compassionate and generous maybe we could honor Blair and make the world a little bit better place.  Maybe not the world it would have been if Blair was here but a better place nonetheless.
So I challenge all of us, in honor of those we’ve lost, to be a little kinder, a little more compassionate and generous with each other.  This won’t bring back those we’ve lost or make up for the goodness they would have brought but it may inspire others to do so as well.  In my opinion, this is Blair’s legacy.